Bob Berndt: Counselor, Teacher, Friend

Bob Berndt

Bob Berndt, who had a generous nature, would not have approved of this piece. A private man, he did not like a fuss to be made about him, even in death. As far as I know, there was no memorial service after his death this past July. There may not have been even an obituary in the paper. These were likely according to his wishes.

Mr. Berndt was my high school counselor, teacher and friend, as he was for the many hundreds of other students he taught over the years. He was a social studies teacher at Hayward High. Throughout his life he loved and believed in education and after he retired, he volunteered as a docent at the Oakland Museum, among other activities. I believe he was in his early eighties when he died. A friend and former colleague of his at Hayward, Jeanne Lycett, sent me this note after I asked her about a service:

Yes, it really is too bad about Bob [she writes]. I had him over on the 4th of July for the past few years and it was great to reconnect with him.  Every Tuesday, Bob would meet for lunch with some of the other “Old Guys” (Dick Schultz, Georger Enderlin – 90 and still driving!, and Bob Giester.)  About twice a year, I was invited to join them and it was great fun. When Bob (Berndt) didn’t show up at last Tuesday’s lunch, Giester called and found that he had passed away that very day. As for an obit or a service of any kind, I haven’t heard anything. Bob was from Southern Illinois, and, I think, may have had a niece still in that area.  He also had absolutely NO religious beliefs, so I’m not sure if there will be anything.

As I recall Mr. Berndt and I never talked religion, but we certainly did talk about lots of other things. In my senior year at Hayward he arranged a special independent study class for me in which I was the sole student and he was the teacher, at least in name. He didn’t do much teaching in that class, and that was the point of it. The purpose of the class was for me to write, on my own, with only occasional guidance from him. The class was third period. When the bell rang and the rest of the students at Hayward gloomily trudged off to their teacher-led classes, I skipped off happily wherever I wished.

Sometimes I went to the library. More often I headed off to the parking lot to find Dave Costa or someone else who didn’t have class that period and who wanted to grab a bite at Quarter Pounder or create some other mischief off campus. Needless to say, I screwed around a lot in my independent study class. This would come as no shock to Mr. Berndt, who surely would have expected it. But I also read a lot during that time. And I wrote. I wrote about a writing hero of mine, George Orwell, and his book, Homage to Catalonia, about the Spanish Civil War. I wrote about my adventures as a pearl diver at Banchero’s Restaurant (memories of which can be found in this post and that one), and I wrote another longer piece about a forty-mile, late winter snowshoe trip I took to Ten Lakes in the Yosemite wilderness with Gordy Kulis, Tom Coopman and Allan Plougher. A few days after I turned in the Yosemite piece Mr. Berndt approached me and said, “I enjoyed my trip to Ten Lakes.”

The class in an inadvertent way-inadvertent to me, though not to Mr. Berndt, I’m sure-taught me a little about managing my time and a little about responsibility, and I’ve never forgotten the trust he placed in me.

Steve Bragonier, a successful Silicon Valley financial executive who has worked at Hewlett-Packard, Silicon Graphics, and other firms, was also a student of Mr. Berndt’s. “He was my teacher and my counselor,” Steve wrote me after hearing about his death. “I felt lucky to be in his class. He guided me to junior college and then on to Stanford rather than going straight to a state college. I’m not sure why he did that (probably my maturity level) but it was good advice in retrospect. I remember he had us keep a journal when we were freshmen. We also kept a journal when we were seniors. Sometime during our senior year he gave us both journals so we could see how much we had changed and matured in four years. I wish I had that journal to read today.”

No doubt many other students of Mr. Berndt’s could tell similar stories of how he had influenced them. That’s the way it is with teachers; they change lives. I am sure that if a service had been held to mark his passing, and all the students he had helped in his years of teaching had shown up, every seat in the place would have been filled and there would have been lines of people stretching for blocks outside. This is probably true of every teacher, the good ones anyhow.

Donations may be made in his memory to the Hayward Public Library, Stanford School of Education, Oakland Museum of California, and the Nature Conservancy, all causes and institutions Mr. Berndt believed in.



Filed under Hayward, California, Personal

7 responses to “Bob Berndt: Counselor, Teacher, Friend

  1. Kevin – As a retired teacher, it does my heart good to see your article about a favorite teacher. These are the things that teachers live to see. I’m sorry he couldn’t see it. It is very difficult to know whether or not you have made a lasting impression on your students. To hear from them later in life is one of the most joyous occasions. I am fortunate to still live where I taught and have contact with many of my students. I hope Bob knows, somehow, how much you valued him.

  2. I graduated from Hayward High in 1967 and I now live in Wichita Falls, TX. I have so many times wondered what ever happened to Mr. Berndt. Today I found out. I wish I could have found him sooner to tell him how much I admired him. He was by far the best teacher I ever had and the one I remember most. The one thing I remember is how he could control the class so well without ever raising his voice or ever getting angry. I am sorry to hear of his passing and it makes me feel very sad but I am greatful I found this information and to know there are so many that would love to have the chance to honor him as he so deserves.

  3. I just found this news of Bob’s death, two years late. I graduated from Hayward High in 1971 and was one of Bob’s students. He was generous and thoughtful, and I now feel sad that I never got in touch with him to let him know of my success, which he, as all my good teachers, contributed to.

    Jeff Ferriell
    Professor of Law
    Capital University Law School
    Columbus, Ohio

  4. I enjoyed reading your thoughts and I so wish I would have been able to let him know how much it meant to me.

  5. Joe Miron, near Seattle

    Kevin, while googling for Bob Berndt, I came across your article. I graduated in 1965 and Mr Berndt was also my counselor, mentor. and most memorable “a story teller”. His views on world events and countries he told under the guise of “Social Studies” are still locked in my memory bank. He opened up the world to me and would later inspire me into many work/vacation adventures during the 1970’s and 80’s.

    Did you by chance know Pete Hauschildt? He dies several years ago and was also a “Farmer” and Mr Berndt fan, who bought and operated a small winery/vinyard in St. Helena.

    Thanks for your great article that brought back great memories, Joe

    • Joe, thank you. Check out my blog at if you’re interested in what else I’m writing these days. Mainly, wine and travel but occasionally other things too. I agree. Mr. Berndt was a great man who helped me a lot too. I had a book party towards the end of his life and invited him to come. But he wasn’t feeling well, I don’t think, and besides he was a very private man, so he passed. I feel lucky that he was in my life and hope that my sons, one in high school, one in middle school, are lucky enough to have a teacher and counselor and friend like Mr. Berndt in their lives too. All best, Kevin

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